THE QUESTION - HOW ARE YOU?

A question that so many people lie about when answering the question HOW ARE YOU?

When I was asked this question and I answered truthfully by saying I am not fine was when I realized I have lied many times when asked such a question and many people have lied about it and still are.

The answer to this question has become a copy and paste that whenever the question is being asked we easily say "I am fine" before giving it a thought of whether we are truly fine or not. Sometimes we argue we are fine while we are not after being noticed that something might be wrong or after someone has felt you are not you.

It is quite alright that yes it is not everybody that should be in knowledge of what your state is but the fact remains that you have lied about your state.

I remember the answer I once gave someone... I said Yes I am not fine but it is something you can do nothing about so let it just be. and that was it. We continued talking about something else.

The answers we give to certain questions about life are sometimes what blocks the way or the ability for people or for those you need to be of help. Oftentimes we want to deal with things alone because we feel it's best or we want to just hide our state and be dying in silence.

You hiding your state by getting used to saying "I am fine" even when you are not can lead to deeper pain. I know how I felt when I said I was not fine. The act of saying it out alone made me feel light not to talk of when being shared. As the saying goes "a problem shared is a problem half solved" because from there a certain percentage of weight has been lifted off your chest and a solution can be sourced out.

That's why no man is an Island. If you live as an Island you'll end up carrying a weight that will pull you down and even affect your relationship with those that are around you.

Learn to be truthful with the answer to the question HOW ARE YOU? When you are truly fine you can say you are fine but when you are not be sincere to yourself and give the right answer.

Depression doesn't come at once, it's a journey that started somewhere.